Ignore the Narcissist

Much has been written about the rise of he who shall not be named (no, I’m not talking about Voldemort), and whether or not Republican leaders should support him. It really should not be complicated. Anyone who cannot call him what he is–a pathologically lying narcissist that espouses fascist, racist and sexist policies, is simply a coward, regardless of political stripe.


Despite his obvious downsides, he has secured the Republican Presidential nomination and his popularity amongst his fans, who have difficulty discerning reality TV from reality, keeps growing. What needs to be understood is that he is the ultimate narcissist. The best thing we can do to deflate the narcissist is ignore him (hence, my refusal to include his name in this post).

I understand that there are those in the media who may find this impossible to do. After all, how can the media fail to cover the Republican nominee? While that is certainly a challenge, commercial media does not need to extend the broad coverage it freely grants him and social media feeds his ego by spreading his vile hate every time a story about him is shared (no matter how negative).

The best antidote for a narcissist is to ignore him.


It is pretty clear that he has a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) which is defined as:

a personality disorder, characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. People with the disorder often come across as a combination of arrogant, callous, and envious. They also tend to be exploitative in their interpersonal relationships and can be excessively preoccupied with personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity. Those with NPD generally have poor insight into their condition and may not acknowledge that their behavior causes problems for others or for themselves.

The challenge we face is that periodically criticizing or ignoring a narcissist will not succeed. It must be consistent. If we truly want to eliminate this negative influence from our lives, we must do our best to completely ignore him. The narcissist feeds on attention, whether positive or negative. We must resist the temptation to give him exactly what he wants.

What Republicans do with their gigantic narcissist is their problem. While starting a 3rd party may not help them win the presidency, it may salvage the morality of Republicans who rightfully loathe their presumptive nominee. It will allow them to start over after their nominee loses and moves on to his next reality TV show or failed business venture.

But, for the rest of us, let us pledge to ignore the narcissist and focus on the opportunity his destruction of the Republican party presents us. Just as Johnson’s landslide victory over Goldwater led to momentous civil rights legislation, we should be planning for the next round of major civil rights legislation that our next President and Congress will pass. Perhaps our nation will finally be ready to pass the long moribund Equal Rights Amendment. After all, now that we live in a nation that has marriage equality, why not live in a nation that enshrines equal rights for all in its Constitution?


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